Happiness is not very
expensive even in this era of social frustration. In most of the cases, we have
to pay the cost of everything which we wish to bring in our acquisition. As
they say, there is nothing like Free Lunch in this world. Similarly, Happiness
has a cost too. But this cost is not paid in cash or through your credit card.
You might be thinking about your new house in a posh area or your luxurious car
or branded clothes which you recently bought for yourself, for which you have
paid a handsome amount and feel so much happy about this asset. Is the material
acquisition of goods enough to make a person happy and satisfied? NO. If goods
could make you happy; then the elite women would not have to fix appointments
with a psychiatrist for their mental peace.
There is no specific formula for happiness or inner peace.
However, I figured out some common cognitive attributes which may be helpful in
releasing depression and accelerate positivity in your thoughts.
Value
Yourself: The first very important point which leads towards happiness
is to value yourself. Don’t think that you are worthless creature. Allah (s.w.t)
has created every living being with a purpose and none of His creation is
useless. Start analyzing yourself by pointing out your strengths and solution
for your weaknesses. Think about your achievements and feel good about them.
With a low level of self esteem; you should not expect to live a happy life.
Your are Not
Here to Please Everybody: Most of the times we do things to make others
happy: our bosses, management, husband, wife, friend etc. I’m not asking you to
annoy them but at least stop killing yourself to meet their expectations. You
are a Human who has his own life, likes and dislikes, dreams. You should do
things which make you happy and of course which do not deviate from your code
of ethics and moral standards. If an evening walk makes your mind fresh then go
for it; don’t wait for a friend to accompany you. If you feel like having an
ice cream; don’t beg your brother or husband to get it for yourself. Make a wish
list and start following.
Ignore the
phrase “Log Kia Kahengay” : Usually before doing something of our
interest, the first phrase which strikes our mind or mom says is “Log Kia
Kahengay” (what would people say). Just remember people are here to talk. They
would comment or rather criticize even on your positive behavior. So just ignore
them and judge your actions on your own parameters. You are intelligent enough
to weigh the impact of your action on you and others. If something, according
to you, is fine then its fine.
Worries
about materialistic acquisition: Today, we live in a capitalist world
where the purpose of living is to make as much money as we could in order to
consume ‘Everything’ which others have. Being Muslims, its our faith to believe
in the power of Almighty Allah. I heard a very deep thought sentence from a
friend that “Naseeb se ziada aur waqt se pehlay kisi ko kuch nahi milta” (You
cannot get more than your destiny and before time). It is not in our hands but
to work hard with honestly, is surely within our reach. So we should play our
part and leave rest to Him who plans better than us.
Praise
people who deserve: Sharing happiness of others inculcates positivity in
our thought and attitude. If your friend gets a position in exam; you must
congratulate him on his success and share his happiness. Similarly, your
colleague who gets a promotion deserves your honest wishes on his achievement.
Be the part of your closed ones on the occasion of happiness and grief. This
will make your heart kind and tender and you would start taking things positively.
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