Does Your Past Hurt?

"If you are carrying strong feelings about something that happened in your past, they may hinder your ability to live in the present." -- Les Brown

I totally agree with the view point of L. Brown regarding the worse effects of our past on the present. From the time, I became capable of developing my consciousness; I began being the proponent of the fact that what we do in our present would restore as the ‘memory’ in our brain (sometime in our unconscious) which would dominate our thinking and perception in future as the past. Precisely, what we do today or what happen to us remains in our consciousness for some time and after that thoughts of new incidents replace the memory; which would then probably restore in our unconsciousness as a past memory in future. And any event can trigger these restored bad memories.

I’m among those who have a very strong memory because of that; I forgive people but don’t forget incidents, experiences and words of others. I believe there are many people around me who have such attributes. One thing which you would also agree with is the fact that this kind of behavior is very painful for a person having high level of emotions and sensitivity.

People, who do not forget their memories, always live in the past and those memories keep hurting them throughout their life. Any person, behavior or incident which may relate to some bad memory, refreshes the scene of the past which may trigger depression. In such scenario the person overlook the countless blessing of Almighty and start complaining about life, world and people around him.

Barbara De Angelis said, "The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present."

Sometimes it happens that the most pleasurable and pleasant experiences and incidents of past hurt us in future. We become sad when we miss those moments that we spent with our loved ones who could not get along with us for some reason. Such memories make us depress but along with this, there are some memories which make us annoyed. Barbara De Angelis refers to such memories that make us angry. In the result of which we start hating ourselves sometimes and mostly blame others. This hatred not only give pain to the person but also restrict him to enjoy other pleasant memories and positive current happenings.

Memories whether good or bad, are the part of past which has gone so I think blaming ourselves or others, making them responsible and burning ourselves in the fire of anger and hatred is worthless and useless; because such memories can’t give us anything except the pain and tears. And something which produce hindrance in the way of our happiness; the sane attitude is to throw it away and start loving yourself and your life for the sake of countless blessings that God has showered upon us. Life is beautiful; so don’t live it as a burden. We have got millions of reasons to be happy.. Can’t we just find one?